“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” – Dr. Seuss, The Lorax
Advocating for a loved one is probably one of the greatest honors – and responsibilities – you will have as a family caregiver. It means fully comprehending the other person’s needs and wishes, and communicating them to those who can help ensure they’re fulfilled.
If the role seems daunting and perhaps more than you feel equipped to handle, there are a number of things you can do to strengthen the relevant skills you’ll need to be successful.
Observe. It may seem to go without saying, but with a number of issues vying for your attention, it may be very easy to pay less attention than required to slight shifts in an older adult’s condition, behaviors, or mood. It is beneficial to first make sure your own self-care needs are met so you’re well-rested and sharp. Then implement a system to take and share notes with any other members of the family or friends who are in close communication with the older adult to be sure to detect any changes.
Communicate. Effective communication with medical, legal, or financial professionals is vital to appropriately advocate for a loved one. Because these professionals are incredibly busy, keep your communication style concise, clear, and to the point. Bring notes so you’re sure to cover all of the bases. Remain respectful, and bear in mind that listening is just as vital to good communication as talking. And, thank the professional for hearing you out and for their assistance in coming to the best solution.
Learn. Continue to understand the particular health condition(s) a senior loved one is battling, along with aging in general, and legal/financial matters. As you find out more, it is likely that subsequent questions will arise. If you cannot get the answers you need from one professional, try another trustworthy source until you gain the understanding needed.
Be tenacious. Advocating for a senior member of the family effectively has been described as serving as “chief bulldog.” It means giving it your all, uncovering creative solutions to challenging problems, always with the older adult’s best interests in mind. Be prepared for frustrations to happen, and to have to fight for what your loved one requires!
Above all, keep an optimistic frame of mind, and surround yourself with a solid system of support, including the senior care team at Independence-4-Seniors Home Care. We’re here to partner with you to ensure the absolute best quality of life for a senior you love. We also provide you with opportunities to step away from your caregiving role to recharge and refresh – something vitally important for both your loved one and yourself.
We offer a no cost in-home assessment and creation of a customized care plan that will help ensure all of your care bases are covered! We provide senior care to Western Springs and the surrounding Chicago suburbs. Contact us online or call us at (630) 323-4665 and let us know exactly how we can help!